For a few years now, some corners of the Internet have been very loudly promoting Testosterone Replacement Therapy (TRT) as the cure for all your problems. Who wouldn’t want to be stronger, more muscular, and more virile? Seeing that TRT is now a 2-billion-dollar industry, it seems that there is a lot of demands. There are a lot of issues as well, which are glossed over. The biggest one is that your body will stop producing testosterone if you supplement it. This is quite similar to problems encountered by steroid-abusing bodybuilders.
As you age, your levels of testosterone go down gradually. The effect will be a lot less severe if you get enough sleep, eat well, and exercise. Still, in your 40s you most likely won’t be quite as keen to have sex as your former horny teenage self. Many men seem to think that this is bad. They see themselves as the all-powerful studs who should be able to have sex five times a day. Yet, plenty of older men find it quite liberating that their sex drive plays a less important role in their life.
A good friend of mine who is in a high-powered job and suffering from the lifestyle consequences this entails, relayed to me, when he was in his early 30s, that sex just stopped being all that important to him. He still gets laid every once in a while as women frequently throw themselves at him, but it’s a very low priority for him. He thought that a reduced sex drive mellowed him, and much preferred this over partying hard and trying to get laid.
That was just one example, but look at your life: how often have you done something dumb because you were horny? Quite a few guys spend countless hours in bars and clubs and routinely waste a hundred bucks or more on a night out, week after week. Think of all the time you wasted with women you were not interested in, but only wanted to get laid with. The hours are staggering.
Let’s talk about wasted hours some more. A young colleague of mine recently told me that he has spent about 2000 hours in seven years playing some online game, Dota 2, which I thought was bonkers. It’s the only game he plays. On average, he’s playing for around 45 minutes a day, every day, or around five hours per week. This doesn’t seem so crazy anymore. In comparison, sum up how much time you’ve spent on women in your teens and twenties! I bet if you ever actively and consistently pursued women, you’ll have racked up thousands of hours as well. I’m not just talking about the time spent in clubs, but also any kind of socializing event you attended in the hope of meeting women, any sport you pursued with that goal in mind, the time you spent in relationships with girls you didn’t really care about. Probably 10,000 hours is too modest an estimate. In that amount of time, you could easily have earned a second Bachelor’s and Master’s degree, or mastered any skill to a very high level.
If you’ve only wasted time in the pursuit of women, you’re lucky. Plenty of men have ruined their life, or given it a turn for the worse, by making decisions that set them back years or put them on a much worse trajectory. There are men who quit their job and move to their girlfriend because she does not want to start over. This is quite bizarre, considering that normally the man has a better-paying job. Even that is not the worst. You will also find guys who managed to knock up some woman without wanting to. There are older women who prey on younger men, particularly if they look as if they are going to be successful in life — I once heard about a woman in her early 30s who was preying on young medical students and managed to get one of them into a relationship. Then there are women who willingly have a one-night stand with you and oh-so-generously offer that you could cum in them because “it would be really hot.” Too bad that you’re then on the hook for child support for two decades. Yup, I know guys like that.
In short, your dick can get you into a lot of trouble. If you’ve managed to get through your twenties or early thirties unharmed, I’d say you should consider yourself lucky. Increased levels of testosterone can easily wreak havoc on your life. It’s bad enough if you were the dumb 21-year-old who busted a nut in a 35-year-old chick who was preying on you and you were just so stupid and horny. It’s worse if you didn’t do that in your adolescence but think that it would be great if you, in your 30s or 40s, would once again pop random boners ten times a day and talk to chicks you don’t even find all that attractive just so that you can get laid.
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